Toxic and Unhealthy Relationship Recovery


Unhealthy, toxic, or controlling relationships can leave deep emotional imprints, often affecting self-worth, identity, and long-term mental health.

These effects don’t always show up immediately, but can manifest over time through anxiety,

low self-esteem, people-pleasing, or difficulty trusting yourself or others.

We often see that maladaptive coping strategies, once essential for survival,

can continue to play out long after the relationship ends.

A multi-disciplinary approach is key to healing. I use trauma-informed,

person-centred support, combined with psychological tools, cognitive behavioural therapy,

and techniques to understand and shift triggers and patterns.

Many of these tools also help transform how you relate to others and yourself.

I draw on a broad base of experience and academic training to give you practical resources to help you rebuild, restructure, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

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Common Challenges

Feeling anxious, reactive or “on edge”

People-pleasing, conflict avoidance, or collapsing boundaries

Guilt, self-doubt, or over-explaining

Repeating relationship patterns you don’t want

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What we’ll work on

Regulation: Techniques for calming and stabilising body and mind

Clarity: Spotting triggers and choosing healthier responses

Boundaries: Saying no without guilt, holding limits with warmth or neutrality

Confidence: Rebuilding self-trust and inner steadiness

“Over the past three years, Nikki has, with energy, enthusiasm and selflessness, helped me cope with and manage exceptionally difficult issues. Including IBS, grief and abuse. Thanks to her, I and my children are on an exciting positive path leading us all the the life we all deserve to enjoy.”
— S, Salisbury

Outcomes Clients Report

More calm and emotional steadiness

Clearer communication and decision-making

Healthier boundaries and fewer blow-ups

Greater self-respect and confidence

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 FAQs

 

  • Yes. Personal stabilisation often makes these processes more effective.

  • Where helpful. We’ll focus on what supports change now, at the pace that feels safe.

Separation and Divorce Support

Separation is stressful, even more so after an unhealthy relationship. I help you stay regulated and clear‑headed so you can communicate effectively, set healthy boundaries, and make decisions you’ll stand by.

How I Complement Professional Support

If you’re working with solicitors, mediators, or financial professionals, I help you:

 

Stay steady: Reduce reactivity and overwhelm

Think clearly: Prepare for difficult conversations

Hold boundaries: Reduce guilt while protecting your interests

Avoid old patterns: Engage without collapsing or escalating 

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 FAQs

 

  • No. I focus on emotional regulation and communication, working alongside your legal or mediation team as needed.

  • Yes. Emotional steadiness and clarity support good decisions in any context.

What’s next?

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Monthly package with support

For those who need a little extra help to rebuild their lives but are confident that they can deal with the every day challenges. 1 x monthly session plus email/text or WhatsApp support during office hours*

£275

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Fortnightly Package with Unsociable Hours Support

For those who are going through a challenging time and need regular coaching or therapy sessions to overcome their challenges and obstacles in extracting themselves from toxic or codependent behaviours. Fortnightly sessions plus email/text or WhatsApp support outside office hours by prior agreement*

£525

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Fortnightly Package with Support

For those who are going through a challenging time and need regular coaching or therapy sessions to overcome their challenges and obstacles in extracting themselves from toxic or codependent behaviours. Fortnightly sessions plus email/text or WhatsApp support during office hours*

£425

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Weekly Package with Unsociable Hours Support

For those who are going through extra challenging times and need regular coaching or therapy sessions to overcome their challenges and obstacles in extracting themselves from toxic or codependent behaviours. Weekly sessions plus email/text or WhatsApp support outside office hours by prior agreement*

£925

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Build your own

If you’re not sure of your needs, or they change frequently, get in touch so we can discuss what works best for you.

From 30 minutes a month upwards, wherever you are on your journey, I am here to help and support you.

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Packages are for 6 months and payable in advance by Direct Debit or Subscription. At the end of each 6 month period, we will review your needs and discuss your options. You can cancel anytime within the month timeframe of your payment date.

*Office hours are Monday to Friday 9.00 am until 5.00 pm. If appropriate, I may respond outside of these hours at no extra cost to you. If you’d like to talk to me first about what package would suit you best, book a time here.