How To Be Your Own Best Coach and change your future

Written By Nikki Emerton

Our lives are made up of us telling ourselves stories, it’s not a sign of madness just what we all do all the time. We have thoughts about what may happen in the future, what has already happened and how you would like things to go. What we like, what we don’t – we judge ourselves and others.

If you said to your friends what you say to yourself – would you have any? Harsh but often true.

What makes you your own best coach is the quality of those conversations you have with yourself. Now just take a moment and ask yourself – those stories, thoughts, and conversations you have with yourself. Are they good quality, are they useful, are they taking you to the place you want to be.

If the answer is no to any of the above then you need to have a conversation with yourself about what needs to change.

Exercise. Grab a piece of paper and a pen

Question 1

What qualities make a great coach, think of someone you hold in esteem for their abilities to encourage and empower others.

Question 2

What would you like to hear right now from the most fabulous coach that ever existed? Think about those things that you really need to here right now.

Questions 3

What do you need to hear from your future wiser, self - right now? If you could transport yourself 5 years into the future what words of wisdom would your future wiser say to yourself right here and now?

The answers should be something that you would find yourself saying to your best friend, not necessarily fluffy, some of the words below may be a little alien to some of us, they are the words a coach would use so adopting them becomes self-empowering:

Compassionate

Encouraging

Honest

Trusting

Congruent

Kind

Genuine

Empowering

Using these questions result in some very honest feedback, you know yourself better than anybody else – your strengths and weaknesses and how you can sabotage your own success. It is often said that we are our own worst enemy but the good news is that you have more influence over yourself, your thoughts and your conversations than anybody else does and it is absolutely your choice to make a difference to your own outcomes.

Nikki Emerton

Developing Mind, Body and Gut

Are you looking to retrain as a therapist or coach?

Are you in or have you been in a destructive, unhealthy or toxic relationship?

Are you struggling with your thoughts, emotions and feelings?

Have you lost your way and need guidance for your mind, body or gut?

I am dedicated to empowering you to be the best version of yourself and allowing you to unlock your potential by levelling up your skills and creating opportunities and growth.

I’m Nikki, a recovered perfectionist, a slightly introverted lover of the outdoors and good food.

I believe that every individual should have the confidence to travel the journey of their choice.

As an individual, you may want to rid yourself of baggage, physical or emotional, including stress, anxiety, depression and conditions such as chronic pain and fatigue. So that you can trust yourself and your decisions with confidence.

As a passionate holistic therapist, I provide accredited, tailored training that empowers you to bridge those gaps and unlock your true potential. Through quality programmes designed to instil clarity of communication, unshakeable self-confidence and laser-focused direction, you'll develop the mindset of a champion with an elite coach built into your psychology to achieve your goals and desires as a business owner and therapist.

Specialising in the dark triads of behaviours, helping you recover from toxic, coercive and controlling relationships so that you can rebuild your life without getting drawn back into unhealthy relationships or co-dependent behaviours.

There are tailored packages to coach you through exiting a relationship or rebuilding your life afterwards.

https://nikkiemerton.com
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